Malik truly had an outsized effect on many people and so we wanted to give you, his family and friends, someplace to stop in and share some words about and to him. As you read, reminisce and reflect, you may find comfort, strength, even wisdom in the words shared here. Whatever your experiences are, or your reason for stopping by, we invite you his family and friends to come often and share fully.
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It’s wild how quickly time slips by. I sometimes feel like I’m the only one who experiences it this way. Eight years have passed, and I can still recall the last time your aunt and I said goodbye to you. Our embrace was brief but full, a moment that carried the certainty of so many tomorrows. And now, those tomorrows have become this moment in memory. It’s taught me not to take anything for granted—every moment is a gift we only get once, so we must make the most of it. I’ve learned so much over these years, and I’m… Read more »
Today you would have been 31 years old, but you left us at 23, 8 years now. Your Auntie Ingrid and I got a chance to visit where your mortal coil now lays. I was not really sad, but we miss you. I suppose in many ways we miss what your potential, which the Creator had other consideration for in this life, could have been. In some ways I just keep going back to when you where around 8 or 9 with so much promise. I promise, and I will keep it, to remember your name, until I am no longer on this earth –… Read more »
It has been some time now, but I just finished transferring the site over from a previous host and as I was perusing and reminiscing, I saw a photo of you and your dad (Will) on the front page and it got me pretty emotional for a solid moment. I could see how much he loved you and how much you loved him. In so many ways you are still here bwah tugging at the emotions. Forever missin’.
So I am sitting here in the days which mark a would be 30th year and the 7th year of a world moving without your presence. Over the years I have viewed your passing and that of others, as unfortunate, but I suppose, as I get older, I am starting to realize how faulty those lens are. In so many ways, it is not that we miss the physicality of the individual, but that I miss the internal model that I created, of what you would have become, the promise that you held and the aspirations that you had. But… Read more »
Yet another year has passed. I am here wishing you a Happy Heavenly 29th Birthday.
My thought for today is that – Everything that has the potential to come into being, also retains within the imperative to go out of being. That is simply the nature of things.
And though it hurts, we are all governed by that nature. You came, you lived, you left. You did what had to be done. Your absence however, has left us all an eternal chasm that one day we shall and must cross. Rest in Power Son.
Happy Heavenly Birthday little man. It has been 28 years since you consciousness came into this world and 5 year since you left. We are still missing you so much.
It is just after midnight (0021 to be exact). Our lives change in a major way 4 years ago when you left this existence and things just have never been the same. As I scratch these words in your memory, I wish your parent and siblings comforting peace, and that wherever you are at this moment, I hope you are without suffering (it is said that in the Creator of all things, suffering is no more) and only love. Miss you little man. Miss you much.
Today would’ve been your 27th; you are no longer with us, but you are absolutely not forgotten. We miss your promise and your presence and nothing can replace that. Continue to rest in peace and power son.
Forever, Uncle C.
The New Year is upon us and the hope is that this year will be a better one than last. I know you are looking over your mom…she had a pretty nasty fall in the bathroom a few weeks back and broke her arm; hope she gets well as soon as possible.
Overall, we are leaning forward and making the best of our situation. You are still on our minds and we are missing you much.
Keep resting in peace son. Uncle C.
Well, I just wanted to stop by since you crossed my mind. This month it seems as though everyone had a birthday, your mom, your sister, your brother and your Auntie Ingrid. We are still struggling with COVID. It has taken quite a few folks already and although they have developed a vaccine, it doesn’t appear it will stem the rate anytime soon. And what about your brother Omari – I thought he was gonna make the leap to the Gators but it appears USF offered him a deal he could not refuse. I am so proud of him. He… Read more »
Wow! so it has been 3 years today since you left. It is so crazy looking at the pictures here and wondering what you would look like today. I was just blown away by how much you looked like and reminded me so of James Harden. Boy, I was about to go talk to yo mama.
Well, it is another year and your memories are still with us. We miss you so much and we hope you are hanging out with your grandpa and grandma and holding it down for us until such time.
Forever Uncle C.
So your aunt told me a few days ago that Omari is heading off to FSU for his college years. It reminded me that you had once talked about heading out there – maybe that’s where Omari got it from. At any rate, you fell in love with the Gators and never looked back. I thought Omari would go to the swamp too, but I guess Seminole Country is where his heart is. By the way, I don’t know if you knew Ms Jewel (your grand dad’s “girlfriend” so to speak). Had her home-going a few days ago. I made… Read more »
It has been a little while since I stopped by to drop a note here, but I hope you are having a good time with your grand dad. He left us on the 14th of September. So much have changed over this year, it just so crazy. I saw you mom and dad and Uncle Michael at the funeral. Everyone is doing well.
Still missing you little man… keeping the vigil.
It is just a few minutes pass the hour, 2 years now, that you left this realm. I am just keeping vigil son.
Your mom and dad and still pressing on; still trying to make sense of the incomparable. Saw your grand dad a few weeks ago. His mind is a bit far gone, he wasn’t able to communicate much. Still missing you tho little man.
Today is the 1st day of 2019. Time is flying by but the world still feel a bit empty still; when I remember you are not still down the hill in Ocala.
You came across my mind in recent days and so I am just jotting a few words here. Still missing you son and your mom and dad are still in a shaken place; they are still trying to figure things out.
Exactly a year ago, today, I was sitting with your mom and dad. We were all still trying to put together the pieces of reality that was our lives. You had moved from this world to the level, but the pain of the moment was profound. Time has separated that moment, but we all still struggle with the new reality. True, our lives (all of us left behind who had you for while) will never ever be the same in this place, but we will continue deal with the change and keep loving each other into the next moment. Here’s… Read more »
Today is your birthday and it so crazy that it’s been just a few days, a year ago from that day seared in those of us you left behind. I watch your mom and dad long for that big awesome hug you give and the smile that rips our hearts, now that we are missing you. Missing you on this day little man.
It is a new year Malik. Just wanted to stop by since you have been in my thoughts. It is quickly approaching a year since you left this realm. We all still miss you so very much son.
Spent Thanksgiving with your mom and dad. It was so crazy walking back in the house for the first time after… the pain still hangs in the air some. I suppose it will never ever leave. Your mom’s eyes still miss you like crazy and your dad is still on his knees with heavy shoulders. They whipped up a meal – your mom’s gnocchi soup was on point. I have several shares. Your grand dad didn’t like it that much, so I ate his share too. On another note – it is wild the way Sophie is getting tall; she… Read more »
It certainly gets no easier with time. Your mom changed her profile picture on facebook and the memory of you of that extremely smart little man came rushing back. Life is such a mystery. So many questions.
Still so missed son…
My mind just ran on you little man – just wanted to drop a word here.
Rumi, the 13th Century Persian Poet once said – “Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form”. This is so true little man…so true.
Just wanted to stop by and share a moment in memory. You might not be here in the physical, but your memory still resonates.
My love for you surpasses all love except the love of God. You were my first, my choice, my little man. It was you and I for a few years and I loved you feverishly. Sometimes you do not know if you are doing the right thing as a parent. You made me a believer that the things you do as a parent and the seeds you plant grow if watered. I try to rationalize why you were taken so soon. I do know that what you did in your short life is what some can’t do in your 23… Read more »
i remember when i was met you and your family you guys were so nice and sweet to me.and then we talk sometimes you were one of the sweetest boys at that church i will always remember you cause you would always make joke to make us laugh and i will always remember that.you are truly miss.rip Malik you are gone but not forgotten.
After 2 wks of going through the ins & outs of planning for Malik’s home-going, yesterday, after returning home, it hit me & I felt extremely sad for the 1st time. Although I had shed many tears, I realized that I will really never see him again, on this earth. I have always felt that when someone that you care for passes on, you miss knowing that they are somewhere sharing the same earth with you. You may be apart from them, but at night they look at the same moon, during the day they see the same sun –… Read more »
There is no pain like the broken heart of a grieving mother. Until yesterday, as we were bidding you goodbye, those were just words to me; I had nothing to measure them by. And then, I heard your mother called for her mother and it was primal.
~Uncle Collie
Just some thoughts that I wrote as I was sitting there listening to the many speakers:
– To be human is to hurt
– to hurt is to care
– to care is to be human
– Live with meaning
– Love hard
– What’s the meaning of all of this…
– It is about people
– There is no race here; just hurt
– it is beautiful – it is good.
– Living the Dash
~Forever ~Uncle Collie